Help with candles

Good morning, I haven't purchased any pentacle candles. Will this prolong the work? I just feel like I'm working backwards. My first candle was Halo Papa GF Sweetening Than I stopped because I didn't have my ancestor altar up. So I'm starting over. With Papa, But I don't know what to do after that. I still have Freda Demballah DA GF Intense Obsession so any advice will be greatly appreciated on what Pentacle candles I should buy and lite together or not. Please help I also need a candle for self love, end a soul tie connection, I feel myself falling into a deep depression I cried so much yesterday that I couldn't open my eyes this morning. My ex and I have been friends for over 12 yrs not only did I lose my man but my best friend. We started to date last year and we both thought it would be an easy journey for us because we thought we knew each other so well. But dating and being best friends it's so different. Well for us it was. Yesterday he called and I was so excited to hear his voice because it's been 3 months since we spoke but we just fell back into our old routine pointing fingers at each other I think what it is we love each other so much that were fighting each other about The Break-Up. We both agreed that we cannot see each other with no one else so since we can't make each other happy we just have to cut ties . I swear to you that my heart stopped beating. He started crying, I couldn't breathe. I just wished him the best and hung up. At first I wanted a candle to bring him back but I don't want to force anything. If I love him the way I claim I do I'm going to release him and let him find his happiness. Please pray for me. I'm so hurt right now I don't want to sit in this pain. I've been praying for strength