I need serious help

So I put on lust and ahari (eriss) I did my chant for a specific person at home while applying. Fast forward a couple hours later was thinking about just attracting male attention in general while meeting some male friends of my sister. I let them in and a male that was not with them walked passed and said hello. I spoke, being polite and he literally started walking towards me with a gun telling me to come with him. I ran....3 hours later, same man tried to get I to my uber with me. I love the thought of getting attention while waiting for my target to get his shit together, but I don't want the scary/negative attention. I've been through this so many times before and I'm mentally scarred. 😫😫