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I am new to this, I purchased 3 intense candles: Halo/Unhex/Healing Tether/Obsession/Ahari Fidelity/L'Amour/Ahari Here is the rundown: I have been off and on with my man almost 20 years. He is not faithful - we have a child - I break off and am able to move on and live without him, try a relationship with someone else, but I find myself landing in his arms again and again....we are best friends, I have felt he is my soulmate - since the first time I laid eyes on him!! ** EDIT HERE** Our relationship was exclusive and solid for the first 8 years - built the foundation. An ex-friend (close friend) stepped into my life and stole him and gave him a child. She has been with him for the last 13 years. They are distant right now. He and I have re-kindled for the last two months and see each other often every week. Sleep at each other's house etc. A tragedy brought us back together. It's all still there, the love, chemistry, spark, communication, it's been hot and super intense. Here is the question....I want to let go of the past and jealousy and obsessions' to know his where abouts - stems from the past. So I know I have to heal. I need her out of his life except for the dealings concerning the child and I need him faithful to me. DO I HAVE THE RIGHT TOOLS TO START WITH.? I can't find a chant for Fidelity. AND do I burn them in the order in which I have listed them above?? Thanks in advance.
If I have 1 Halo/Unhex/Healing Intense Candle to use for me, and 1 Unhex full size candle to use for him, can I burn them both at the same time because they are if the same nature and purpose or do I have to burn them separately before I start the rest of my works?
Try truth too ! Find out what’s the real deal . His intentions, reasons for his infidelity, etc .
Before you do any love work please do unhex, halo, crossroad, healing, and get a truth candle or reveal the unknown to know the real deal about your situation. Remember no matter what work you do everyone has free will to change that outcome. Start your journey knowing the real deal. Then after definitely get yourself a soul tie ceremony and protection. Work on this for the both of you before moving on to any love work. After you have finished then u move on to Solomonic rite then sweetening, Deadly attraction, rekindle/fidelity, and lamour intense, blood Lamour, loyalty domination. Please be patient love work taste time.
I love conjuring. I think we are all ‘conjuring’ all the time, whether or not we are aware of it. I feel like the conjure candles allow us to ‘re-learn’ how to create the life of our choosing. There’s a responsibility with conjure. But people who don’t conjure also face the same responsibilities. The Sun Rite is an incredible way to bless you and your spiritual path. Routine protection will also function like a blessing. If you’re uneasy about conjuring at first, I would definitely start with Lala’s Sun and Mercury Rites. Lala will conjure, it’s fail safe. Just petition for blessings and blockbusting. Then go cleanse or Unhex or both and definitely get protection from ChaelaBre at Soul Purge. If you do these two things first, you will be starting out in the best possible way I think. I did Sun and Mercury rites and Chaela’s Protection Ceremony before I ever conjured. My life has changed incredibly in 7 months. Lala and her daughters and their work is the most incredible gift. Whether or not you conjure, those spirits and angels exist. With Lala and her daughters you’re safe. This group is great. It encourages self-sufficiency and is very supportive.
As far as the chant for fidelity. You can just chant that he is committed , loyal and faithful to you and only you and he only has eyes for you and only you. He only feels desire, love and only makes love to you and only you. Just an example
Yes you do burn them in that order. I recommend Mars to protect your spells and the 2nd pentacle of Mercury to remove obstacles and third parties
Dedicated healing candle for you to heal yourself. Continue to do this through your journey. Heal your relationship more than once. Protection of your work ( MARS) if you aren’t ready to conjure. Continue to do this throughout the journey. Additional suggestions: Truth candle to understand what continues to separate the relationship. Sweetening always on standby. Rekindle to enhance the love your shared. War candle for victory of the relationship ( when you arrive at that point). You have a pretty good understanding of your situation so take a look at all the candle descriptions to identify how to best work your situation. Not everyone is quite comfortable with conjure and that’s okay and when you reach that point there are more supporting ways to assist. Given what you stated, there’s a lot of work to be done before you touch that tether candle if that’s your goal. You need to understand why the separation continues to occur. Why isn’t he faithful? Why did he sleep with a close friend? There’s a lot to unpack before you jump into the binding aspect but you can arrive at your manifested location 🤍
You have some great tools, but it sounds complicated with a long layered history. Here’s what I would do: Sun Rite- bless yourself and your spiritual work Mercury Rites- put them on yourself and your spiritual work Unhex full burn for you only Halo full burn for you only Crossroads full burn for you only Mars spelled full burn you only AFTER the above I would start the candles you do have. If we were real life friends, I would seriously be like, you need to get to soulpurge.com asap. Over there do the Unhex, Soul Purge, Soul Tie Removal, and Protection Ceremonies. Ideally do one of each for you and put one each on him. Definitely consider Lala’s Sun and Mercury Rites. I do both frequently. Like, I try for every month or every other month. I love UHH Intense But I think this situation would benefit from the full size, full burn stuff I listed. 20 years is a long time. People are born, live, make a difference and die in 20 years- energetically I respect the decades. They share a child. You and he share a child. Ya’ll are bonded no matter what. I would move slowly, delicately. No matter what it’s all gonna get a zillion trillion times better. ALWAYS keep your protections up (I say at least once a month). Cleanse, bless and remove blocks routinely. When you have free time come randomly search the forum. There is a wealth of information contained in past posts.