Not sure what to use.

Ok. Long story short, my boyfriend and I have been having some issues since his baby mama decided she wants him back in they kids life. She gave him all these crazy stipulations and what she needs from him which has caused him to neglect things at home.( garbage, bathroom, ME) and has blatantly told me that he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship but we can still live together.. we sleep separate now. No intimacy. No hugs, kisses. No touching at all, I’ve asked him to leave multiple times… he is now low on money and couldn’t leave if he wanted to. I got the sweetening incense and it did just that, sweetened him. So he’s been communicating better. But I’m not sure if I need something to reveal whats going on so I can see what I need. Or is there anything strong enough to bring my man back to who he was in the beginning??